Lower your expectation

  We sometimes pride ourselves on living in the world that everything is possible.But we should know that it's a sweet dream.It is great if our dreams do come true,but it's going to disappoint us and make us unhappy if they don't.

  We tend to think that we can change more than is realistic to expect,and we tend to think we can change more quickly and easily than we can.We often believe that achieving our goals will change our lives in unrealistic ways.

  All of this is not to say that high expectations are bad.They do help us feel good about ourselves.When we take initial steps toward change,even just starting an exercise plan or a new diet,we often feel a surge of high hopes and self-confidence.This can be really motivating,however,success requires that we also be realistic with what goals we set and how we plan to meet those goals

  When a person own something,then he wants more.If he can not be satisfied,then he will feel disappointed.He is not happy.I think if we have lower expectations,we are less likely to be disappointed.We are more likely to be satisfied.We are more likely to be happy.

  Lowering your expectations does not mean letting go of your dreams.It just means approaching life with a somewhat different mindset. Here are my ways for lowering my expectations:

  First.I can accept  B+,I don't care about A too much.Then I can have more fun when I do everything,I have a kind of power after I open my eyes everyday.

  Second.Realize that no one cares.I learnt many years to ignore the feeling that the world is watching and judging me. After so many years I finally know that no one cares about what you are doing,they just care their own life. 

  Third.Enjoy "right now" happiness  instead of always searching for next unknown area.We should give ourselves sometime to digest something,then we have energy to move on.

  Fourth.Imagine the Worst Case.Sometimes,I used to fear that I have failed to achieve one of my goals, then I imagine the worst possible thing that could happen. And when I do that, I usually realize that I am not so bad and  appreciate whatever  I accomplished. I feel much better.

We have lower expectations,we won't be disappointed.We will be satisfied.We will be happy.Just lower your  expectation with me.

THIS I BELIEVE

  By belief,I mean happiness.This I believe that happiness is the most important thing in our life.This is the "end goal" of life.

  Happiness give me the strength I need.

  Happiness teaches me what the life means.

  Happiness is the key to success.

  Happiness never takes me down.

  Happiness is having someone by my side to love.

  One thing is happiness to me,is having you around. 

  Happiness becomes popular in self-help.We want to find the method for true fulfillment and satisfaction.When we experience more positive emotions, grow our relationships, are engaged in daily activities, and achieve meaningful goals we can experience more happiness.

  Happiness can not be explained.It is something to be felt,to be experienced.Happiness is a feeling of joy,a feeling of elation,a good feeling.It is an emotion.It can only understand through experience.One will never really know what happiness is until one actually experience it.Happiness is common to all people all over the world.

  Happiness gives you energy.A depressed person can drain your energy.It takes a lot of energy to be so negative.You have very little left over for anything.To be happy on the other hand gives you more energy and turns into a never-ending cycle of being "ready to go".

  Happiness makes you more likeable.People like happy and positive person.When you are around happy people you tend to feel good yourself.If you are happy ,people are going to want share that feeling with you and be around you.

  Happiness makes you healthy.Being happy gives you many rewards when it comes to your health.You becomes less stressed and be more healthy.

  Happiness allows you to go after your dreams.When you feel good, you feel good about yourself and your ability to do things in life. You can be your best cheerleader when you feel good! Happiness allows you to go after the life you want. The voice inside your head tells you that you can and you listen to it more easily.

  Happiness makes you a better person.When you are happy,you are able to being unselfish, loving, and peaceful.Being selfish is not necessary because you are already happy. Being loving is easy because you have a lot of happiness to share and give. And being peaceful is easier because you are not worried, anxious, or stressed out.

  If you want to be a happy person,just follow several rules.

  First,free your heart from hatred.

  Second,free your mind from worries.

  Third,live simply.

  Fourth,give more.

  Fifth,expect less.

  I am on the way chasing happiness.I make my life wonderful and I can be meaningful.If you want to be happy,just join me.What can you do to make yourself happy today.

Happy...From today.

  We have many thing to do everyday,and we always forget to have fun.We give ourselves more work everyday even we feel depressed.Life is so short,we have no time to be sad.Let's go,come on.Just be happy...From today!

  Every morning,smile in the mirror,smile to yourself and say you are the best after you get up.Everyday is a new day.Smile to yourself and forget some bad things.Remember to yourself that you are the best,nothing can stop you.

  Everyday,put a coin in a piggy bank,just give yourself some hope.If you can live with hope,then everyday is amazing.You will be energetic.Follow you heart,just do something you like.

  Find some beautiful notebooks you like.Just write your ideas to yourself.Write everything you want to say to yourself.Write the happiness and sadness.Write the daily life.When you feel unhappy,just write down and forget it. 

  In a sunny afternoon,lying on a chair,drinking tea and reading a book you like.That's so wonderful.If you do like this,how can you not be happy everyday.Relax yourself,take a deep breath.Life is so amazing.When you feel down,just read some books.Find the light for your life.

  Walk in the rain,without taking an umbrella.Just let the rain flow across your face.Let the rain wipe off your pain.Let the rain be your friend.Shout in the rain,you can do everything you like.

  Try everything you can to make yourself happy.Believe in yourself.Remind yourself that you have no time to be sad.Just be happy...From today!

Colorful blogs,colorful life...

  I created my blog recently,it is new to me.I want to make it perfect.So I read a lot of blogs.Many people like blogging,and they blog all kinds of things.Here are some blogs I like.Their blogs maybe not so popular,and maybe they don't update quite often. I like them for many reasons.I hope they can give you some ideas and make you happy.

  First Blog:The first blog I introduce is Coffee with Hallelujah.To be honest,the first time I read this blog just because it's my teacher's blog.However,I like it after I read it.She is an artist,she wants to connect and share her ART and reflections with like-minded SOULS across generations.Her theme is just art,and she uses lots of beautiful pictures.She encourages people to explore,to make mistakes.It's a thoughtful blog,so I really like it.You can have a try.

  Second Blog:The second blog is A blog about love.The first time I saw the title,I like it.The blogger just writes her own experience,some feelings and daily life.She wants to show others a better way to live.She writes her blog fluently.Some beautiful pictures will make you love it and learn something from it. 

  Third Blog:The third blog is Love made me do it.When you enter the homepage,you will hear beautiful music.Say hello to your heart and always listen to your heart.Remember love all the time,then you will have power to do everything.

  Fourth Blog:The fourth blog is Sage's play.She support creative,conscious aging,wellness and spirit.She is the director of the play.She is an artist of life.She writes positive things in her life.With some beautiful pictures,we can know her much better.

  Fifth Blog:The fifth blog is This Ain't New York.The blogger actually write a blog about life.Everything you experience can teach you something.How to live happily and how to love life.That's the most important thing.Even the blogger doesn't use a lot of pictures,I like it.It's simple and it can make me peaceful.

  I like blogging.I can say whatever I want.I can have my own opinions.I will try to update my blog when I have time.I can share my inner world with you.I have many things to do for being a good blogger.I can make a small change everyday,my life will have more fun.

Carving before Halloween,I think I can be an artist.

Inviting more art and joy into my life!And you will be happy from the inner world.

  Thank you Because of Halloween,Dave invited us to his house to carve.His house is so big and nice.I am so grateful that he is so kind to let us experience something new-the Halloween-a new culture to us.Thank you,Dave,you are so generous.Be grateful forever,for everything you have,for everyone around you.Never take life for granted.You will live much happier.

  Try it.Stop hesitating. Because I never do something like this.I never carve a pumpkin.When Dave invited me,I was afraid that I couldn't do it well.I hesitated  to go.But after I sit down,began to carve carefully.I started to have fun.I made a small mouse and a ghost.And I love my carving from heart.It is art.So just try it.Stop hesitating.Open your eyes!See the world around like a child.You will have a lot of fun.

  Make a choice. We can make a choice in our lives experience something new.We can make mistakes.Happiness is the most important thing.We can sing for ourselves,to encourage ourselves.We have the power to make ourselves happy.So many friends accompany me and support me.I feel so comfortable.There is no reason for us to be sad.So just enjoy yourself,enjoy the life. Just make a choice.

  From this trip,I think I can be an artist.If I don't give myself a chance.I never know that I am so artistic.Inviting more art and joy into my life!And you will be happy from the inner world.May you find yourself,and have fun all the time.

Punkin' Patch by Andy Z & The Beeheads is a fun & colorful video for you.Cheer up! Have fun.

Dancing in the Sunshine

  Welcome to my blog, "Red Tears Dancing in the Sunshine" Will you join me in a discussion of my daily life and yours? Are we happy only when everything goes well? Or can we create lives that are filled with happiness and surprise? Can we keep discovering ourselves and learning from life as we grow old?

  The idea for this blog originated for a long time, finally I get the chance to do it. As a person who loves life so much, I tried everything to make myself happy and passionate. I smile to myself in the mirror. I put a coin in my Piggy Bank to give myself a hope. I believe that even a small action can make a big difference.

  We have loving family and supportive friends, no reason for us to be sad. We should be satisfied with our life and try our best to find something good, not the opposite. We should learn from life and find something interesting. Life is short, we have no time to be sad. Take a deep breath and move on. I must take risks, make mistakes, explore and discover. I want to be the person in my heart. Whatever I do, it is not so bad.

  Well, this image comes to my mind, happy Prince Sunshine, standing on the ground happily. He is ready to do something meaningful. He is full of energy. Suddenly, a beautiful music appears, the Prince Sunshine just dances without thinking about anything. Everything he wants just for one purpose, be happy.

  Definitely, I am the Prince Sunshine, and I choose to dance in the sunshine without hesitation. I would honor myself and the joy I experience when I ask: What can I do to make myself happy today? Only then, I can make my life wonderful and I can be meaningful.

  I would find a new way to live happily. Join me. Join Sunshine.Dancing in the Sunshine.Where are you in your life? Do you want to be happy? Just join me!